Be aware the next time you go to dinner or have a drink with someone. You may just be telling them exactly how and what you feel without opening your mouth.
How? Body language. Let’s take your arms, for example. They are chatty little things.
Usually, I have to do something stupid to catch a guy’s eye. Then I flutter my eye lashes and curl my index finger towards him. Then, I get out the lasso and drag him towards me. Now, it appears I don’t have to consciously do anything! My arms will do it all for me. How cool is that?
So, how do we do these unconscious acts? I’ll tell you.
Touching Your Arm
So there you are, standing at the bar when a guy (or girl) approaches you. Then, while chatting, they touch your arm. And, just to be clear, were not talking about them wrestling it behind your back (like I often do before forcing said person into my trunk). No, I mean the more subtle way they accidentally brush their hand against yours.
What does it mean? Well, if they do this, then it means they like you and want your full attention.
Stroking Their Arm
What if, while talking to you, this woman (men don’t usually do this), begins to stroke their own …. arm? (Come on, lets keep this out of the gutter). If you’re a guy, then congratulations – you’ve scored because it is the womans way of subtley letting you know she wants you to touch her.
Arm Around The Chair
A classic for that first date at the cinema. I think it has happened to everyone at some point or another and doesn’t really need an explanation. But did you know if the arm is kept there, especially after a conversation has finished, it is a sure sign that the person is ‘marking his territory’. And we all agree it’s a much better way than a dog does it.
Leaning forward elbows on knees
By this, we mean from a sitting position; the person leans closer to you and rests their elbows on their knees. It’s another sign that someone is flirting with you. Only, with this signal you have to be careful they aren’t just hard of hearing.
Elbow Touching
Being touched on this area means you’d better have ex-foliated all that hard skin away!
The elbow is a safe way for someone to show they like you and want your attention. Because the elbow isn’t classed an intimate part of the body, it is a subtle sign and if a stranger did it, we probably wouldn’t mind – unless it were in a darkened alley at the time.
Showing The Wrist or Forearm
This is a soft and vulnerable area of the body and classed as erotic. Usually a sign shown by the female when she is interested in dating.
So, what arm signs do you do when trying to show a person you like them? Are you even conscious you are doing it? Have you ever been aware of someone showing these signs to you? Let me know.
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Why didn’t I know any of these things years ago when I was single? I was always clueless.
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David, It wouldn’t have done me any good even if I had known about these things back then – I was so clueless…… Still am, come to think of it.
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Ah, Hugh Jackman always gets my attention, no matter how he’s sitting. I’m going to be so much more aware of how people use their arms from now on! Fascinating stuff, Donna.
David ~ obviously you did something right because you’re married now, right? You can still flirt with your wife, try it sometime I bet she’ll like it!
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Tameri, maybe I’ll just do a post on Hugh…..no words, just pictures 🙂
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Hi Donna!
I love Yogi! I had no idea he was such a flirt.
I’m going to have to be more careful. According to your post, I am a complete flirt! But why doesn’t my husband like it when I touch his arm? I think we’ve been married for too long. lol
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Karen, how do you touch his arm, though? Chinese burns really hurt, lol.
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What a fun post! I have studied up on body language a little. It’s fascinating stuff what we give away without talking. Thanks Donna!
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You’re welcome, Debra. I’m frightened to move when I speak to people in person now. I think I’ll just phone everybody I know. 🙂
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HI Donna.
This series is full of great info for writing. I’m just going to have to cover myself in a bin-bag next time we meet because I’ll be so self-scared I might inadvertently “say” the wrong thing!
Cheers!
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Nigel, I think two fingers means the same in any language 😀
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Donna,
I ‘ve had a very genuine experience at the gym with this very attractive younger lady. i had to go to a different gym(my gym was shut for a week and I went to the one where I met..) and after I saw her i started going every day there.i was looking at her and I felt she did acknowledge me too. After 3 days I talked to her.After 2 more I just had to ask her if she is modelling.Towards the end of work out I approached her again,and told her that she’s driving people insane with her work out and ..looks( I pointed out to the guys playing basketball..who were looking at her through the window!!!)! Was looking in her eyes and I TOUCHED her left elbow(the entire time I was natural ,confident and smiling) and I told her that I hope I will see her around..she answered quickly..Me too..and she picked my right hand in a nice long holding hand….but I blew it because I had to leave (a tennis tournament).didnt get her ph no ,the gym shut down for a week..and she went back to college..not far..but she doesn’t show up anymore to the same gym..I really liked her but I feel that I lost the train.Do you think it was genuine from her side too?? should I try to pursue her..somehow or just let it go??? Thanks..
…loser?
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